Sunday, November 26, 2017

Jasper and Sophie Rae are our November 26, 2017 Pups of the Week



There are moments that the words don't reach
There is suffering too terrible to name
You hold your child as tight as you can
Then push away the unimaginable
The moments when you're in so deep
Feels easier to just swim down
And so they move uptown
And learn to live with the unimaginable.”


That quote is from a song called “It’s Quiet Uptown” from the musical Hamilton written by Lin Manuel Miranda and myself during the spring before I went to the Bridge.  It was my wish that he takes full credit for our silly little historical play.  Who knew?


The song is sung by Alexander Hamilton and his wife Angelica after their son is killed in a duel.  They are both broken with grief.  They are learning to live with something so sad and shocking it is unimaginable.


This week, the family of Jasper and Sophie Rae, plus all their friends, are trying to live with the unimaginable.  Ten days ago they both were living happily with their parents.  Over the course of two days, last Sunday and Monday,  Jasper and Sophie went to the Bridge, leaving their devastated family behind


Jasper’s passing was long feared, but not unexpected.  He has been having seizures for months.  Weeks ago his parents were preparing themselves for his journey to the Bridge.  But then his medicine began to work, and he improved to the point he was able to go on a family vacation.  


Sophie Rae, who is five years old, watched after her brother, who was twice her age.  She developed a limp, something every dog does occasionally, and no reason to worry.   Her parents took her to the vet, who had diagnosed her with a sprain. But the limp was not improving.   On a subsequent check-up, the vet elected to do an x-ray which brought the most devastating news.  Sophie Rae had bone cancer in her front shoulder.  There was no surgery to be done, no chance of a cure.  She was one jump away from a devastating leg break.  “We never imagined Sophie would go first,” her mom wrote on Facebook.


Tragically, she didn’t.  Jasper was having seizures before Sophie’s grim diagnosis, but after that awful news, Jasper’s seizure became more severe and closer together.  His parents were given directions to stop these cluster seizures, but nothing worked.  Jasper’s father took him to the vet, but there was nothing they could do.  Jasper was sent to the bridge that night.


“If I could spare his life
If I could trade his life for mine
He'd be standing here right now
And you would smile, and that would be enough”


The next day Jasper and Sophie Rae’s parents set her to the Bridge too.  Jasper had somberly waited for Sophie to arrive.  There were the huge clouds of tears and the sounds of sobbing echoing across the river when they were reunited.  We greeted our new angels, hugging and kissing them.  We expressed our concern for their parents, but Jasper said he knew they would survive because they had one another to help through this awful time and nothing, not even this senseless tragedy could break that bond


“I don't pretend to know the challenges we're facing
I know there's no replacing what we've lost
And you need time
But I'm not afraid, I know who I married
Just let me stay here by your side
And that would be enough”


In past years I would have demanded the Big Guy give me answers about this senseless tragedy, but lately, the cave at the top of the mountain has been closed for repairs.  I didn’t want an answer.  I knew life is hard, cruel and horrific.  I was tired of making sense of the senseless.


This morning Sophie came to see me.  She and Jasper had a secret.  Sophie knew Jasper did not have much time left so she gave him some heartbeats so he could stay with his parents longer.  It was an extremely generous gesture but, sadly, when a dog does this, they are never sure how many heartbeats they have.  She assured me she would have made the same decision if she was aware that her heartbeats were dwindling.  Jasper made her parents happy, and she was honored to sacrifice for him.


“There are moments that the words don't reach
There's a grace too powerful to name
We push away what we can never understand
We push away the unimaginable.”


In every tragedy, there is sacrifice and love and even hope for tomorrow.  Jasper and Sophie are committed to seeing their parents, who they know are the best parents in the world, provide a loving home for another dog when they are ready.  The position of being a dog in their family is highly sought, and they are already conducting interviews so they will be able to tell their parents which pup to pick when the time comes.  Sophie, especially, is willing to sacrifice anything to see her parents happy again.  When you are willing to part with heartbeats for your parents there is nothing you won’t do.


Until that day comes, Jasper and Sophie will be with their parent's side during every step of the way supporting them and giving them strength to get through the unimaginable.


“If you see him in the street, walking by her side
Talking by her side, have pity
Look around, look around
They are going through the unimaginable.”



6 comments:

  1. Oh, the heartbreak of the family! Too much loss!

    Your Pals,

    Murphy & Stanley

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  2. We love the music from Hamilton. These lyrics are universal when tragedies happen in families.

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  3. That is so darn sad and I can't imagine the pain the family is dealing with. We send their special family love and hugs.

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  4. it is so sad and it feels like the world stopps for a second... and if it turns around again, nothing is like it was once... sigh...

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  5. This is so very sad to lose two so very very close.
    pug prayers for their family
    hugs
    Hazel & Mabel

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